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Best advice you can give a woman who is about to have her first child??

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:01 PM on Jun. 26, 2009 in Pregnancy

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Answers (16)
  • get some sleep now even though it may be hard. Go out and do something that you won't be able to do for awhile such as get a pedicure, go to a movie, go out to eat at a nice restaurant. Babies communicate by crying. If whatever you are doing to calm them down from crying is not working try something else. And it does get easier b/c the baby gets to know you more and you get to know them more. Oh, and one last thing: Cherish every moment (even the stressful ones) cause believe it or not you will at some point miss it and take lots of pictures too.
    momoflilangel

    Answer by momoflilangel at 1:12 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • beyond the crying and changing diapers, it will get better
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:05 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • Not to worry. It only hurts for a while and you will honestly forget the pain as soon as your precious baby is in your arms.
    The other thing is that (if you haven't done it already), try to make sure you have everything you need for the first few weeks aready at home, especially things you don't think of like Downy, you won't feel like going shopping while your healing and getting to know your baby.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:07 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • Give BF a fair shot. You will never have to find, sterilize and make a bottle at 2am.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:14 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • Sleep when they sleep. Even if your house is a disaster thats what I got told. I hate my house messy but you really do need the sleep.
    Heidikans

    Answer by Heidikans at 1:42 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • don't stress. just breath. the first two weeks are hard. but it does get easier, and pretty soon you'll be past the 2 hour feedings, and your baby will be more mobil, and not want to be held and cuddle all the time.
    your a new mom, don't worry about make up and trying to keep everything up. Your allowed to have 'scruffy days' but try to get a shower. that helps you feel better and gives you a few min. alone to recoup.
    Good Luck and enjoy your new baby!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:17 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • PUSH!!!!
    mellypoo

    Answer by mellypoo at 2:37 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • ok seriously, don't be afraid to make people leave if you want to be alone with just the baby or you baby and partner. those first couple of weeks can be really emotionally and physically trying, and if you don't feel up to company just ask them to leave. don't force a happy face if you don't really feel it.

    conversely, if you feel overwhelmed don't hesitate to ask for help! don't assume people will just show up ready to help you, they won't know you need it unless you ask, so don't be shy!
    mellypoo

    Answer by mellypoo at 2:40 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • Sleep when they sleep, don't bother reading the "experts" books, follow your instincts. The night feedings aren't as bad as they seem, I loved the uninterupted quiet time with my baby; my first went right back to sleep after a diaper change and feeding. Let you SO know what is expected with him. Enjoy all of those moments that you'll never get back.
    LoriW

    Answer by LoriW at 2:45 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • You will know your baby better than everyone else around you....even if they have had babies themselves and this includes your doctor. Listen to your instincts, follow that little voice and you will be right every time. If you breastfeed, yes they can eat every 2 hours, sometimes more. It's normal and it's not because the baby is not getting enough to eat. It digestss quickly and it will also help to establish your supply. People will try to make you think you are starving your baby and I promise you you are not! Congrats and good luck!
    khedy

    Answer by khedy at 3:20 PM on Jun. 26, 2009