My daughter is getting ready to turn 6 years old tomorrow (June 27th). She is an only child. She just completed Kindergarten and has been promoted to the 1st grade. I don't want to see her being mean to the other kids, not sharing, not constantly interupting someone while they are speaking, and not saying nice things. She done all of that in Kindergarten and I've been trying to work with her to lessen the amount of times it happens. But I want some fresh ideas as to what all I can do to help with turning those behaviors around into more positive behaviors. Any ideas/suggestions?
I would give her as much time as possible to play with other kids. I would also try as hard as you can to resist the temptation to step in and moderate her play. Let her work things out with her friends as much as possible. This is a lesson she really won't learn from you, but from other kids. When she gets a little older and one of her friends doesn't want to play with her anymore she'll understand what you've been telling her.
Answer by MAUREEN55 at 6:26 PM on Jun. 26, 2009
You could have another child, just kidding!
Honestly, there a certain personality traits that go along with being an only child. I don't think you can completely combat that. Only children are much more assertive than children with siblings. This can be difficult, especially when they are young. On the other hand, when she gets older this will help her out in life. Only children tend be very high achieving adolescents and adults.
Answer by MAUREEN55 at 6:23 PM on Jun. 26, 2009
Classes like martial arts and dance teach discipline, working together, and sharing.
My daughter is only 3 but she is an "only child" and doesn't show most of the traits you mention as part of the "only child syndrome". She loves to share, loves to work with and play with other kids, is learning to not talk over others and to interrupt politely when needed, and doesn't say mean things to anyone. Being an "only" doesn't doom a child to be mean or spoiled. Different children have different temperaments, learn things at different rates, and it has little to do with birth order (or lack thereof) - get yours involved in some highly disciplined activities and watch her catch up with her peers fast.
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