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i have two girls age 9 and 10.i'm having a problem with fighting and jeliousy

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Asked by lil_2_notning at 5:42 PM on Jun. 26, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • i have that same trouble i have 9 year old girl and a 12 year old girl

    Answer by mrsgarthbrooks1 at 5:44 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • maybe you can try talking to them seperatley to there own favor and if that don't work let them fight it out and just grow out of it, cuz no matter how you try and make the situation better there girls they will fight and get jelouse

    Answer by looovemybabies at 5:57 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • Sibling rivalry is normal. Here are some good books for both them and you  (Click on Siblings/Sibling Rivalry).

    I think kids tend to fight more when they are bored.  Keep them busy   

    Stay out of their arguments (easier said then done) as they will likely try to pull you in.  Just tell them you think they need to work it out between themselves, otherwise you will have to be "fair" to both of them and separate both of them for a certain period of time in their rooms.


    Answer by momjs at 9:09 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • It wont stop anytime soon mine are 16,12,11 and 4 and they all fight even the 4 year old fights with the 16 year old. all the time at least two of them are at it. Sometimes I dont say anything but other times my nerves are shot and they get in trouble.

    Answer by heavenlypeace at 10:58 PM on Jun. 26, 2009

  • I think the best thing to do is tell them to work it out themselves. If they can't take care of it themselves, then make the consequences the same for both of them and don't let them draw you into who's fault it is or who did what (neither will be listening in the heat of the fight). I would also try to talk to them seperately at times when they are having less problems - they might see the other's point of view better when they aren't actively engaged in a dispute. You might take them out for lunch or ice cream or shopping at separate times (when they aren't being awful) and ask them what they think would help them get along better. Ask them each what THEY can do to make the situation better for themself.

    Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 11:17 AM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • Find chores that take teamwork to complete. Every time that they fight a lot, give them a chore. Every time they fight over a toy, take the toy and say problem solved. Soon they will realize that fighting isn't getting them anywhere. All it gets them is more work & less toys/priviledges.

    Answer by motherofhope98 at 10:30 AM on Jun. 30, 2009

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