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how do i not offend any one

i am getting married next year and i really do not want any kids there not that i dont like my friends kids its that there will be an open bar and i really want everyone to enjoy themselfs and i know that some of my friends are kind of overindulgent and no to mention there is a lake and some forest in the back of the place we are getting married and i dont want any thing to happen to anyone do you have any advice on how i go about politley asking people to not bring the children with out hurting any ones feelings

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Asked by rjsjjs1 at 11:02 AM on Jun. 29, 2009 in Entertainment

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  • No matter what you say or do, they will be offended. Just do ask them the best and kind way you know how, but expect people to get offended by it.

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 11:06 AM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • You just do it, it's YOUR wedding. It's about yopu and your husband, not about your friends and their feelings. But just understand that some people will not leave their child for any reason what so ever, so dont' get YOUR feelings hurt if some decide to not come, it will be their loss, not yours.

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 11:06 AM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • Make sure on the reception card it says adult reception.


    Answer by Anonymous at 11:07 AM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • They shouldn't be offended. If they understand its your wedding. i completely understand what your saying aswell. Your reception is an adult affair. Make sure they are aware in the invites. Don't pick out specific couples cos that would be a mistake. Make sure everyone knows.

    Answer by mum-to-be-at-18 at 11:11 AM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • Is the wedding going to be formal? If so, I think its fairly understood that kids don't come to a formal evening event. Just put the adults names on the invite. If its more of a casual affair, it may be a bit more difficult, but doable.

    As a cafemom member though, I assume you have children? Will they be attending?

    Answer by gramsmom at 11:31 AM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • I had the invitations say "adult reception following the ceremony". I didn't want a bunch of little kids running around (I have a ton of younger cousins). Your wedding day is about you and your matter what you do with any detail you will have people get upset over stupid things.

    Answer by StefMc07 at 12:19 PM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • Just don't include the children's names on the invitation. Poof, they're not invited.

    If you'd like an alternative, hire a babysitter and arrange for a room at the wedding reception location (somewhere off the main room) where the children can be entertained as children by someone devoted to looking after them.

    Answer by Avarah at 12:25 PM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • Just say there will be an adult reception after the wedding. And maybe do something for the kids. So theyll be seperated from the drinking adults.

    Answer by alexa_n_mommy at 12:35 PM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • No! Don't have someone watch the kids in a seperate area. That's too much responsibility, and the kids will be kids - they'll find a way to get out. Instead, provide a list of babysitters - ask your friends/family for numbers of the sitters they use.

    How about "Adults Only Reception". Be very clear about it because If someone shows up with a kid, the others who left theirs behind will feel that you are favoring one over the other. If that happens and you get called out on it, say "We know so-and-so brought thier kids. Thank you for respecting our wishes, not everybody did," and leave it at that.

    Good luck!

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 PM on Jun. 29, 2009

  • as long as you let folks know well enough in advance that it's an adult reception you should be ok. Remember that many ppl want a break from the kids anyway! Most just need notice to get a sitter. Best wishes on your nuptials.


    Answer by admckenzie at 1:02 PM on Jun. 29, 2009

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