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What is the best way to react to an 11 month old who throws tantrums?


Asked by jacobsmom707 at 11:37 PM on Jun. 21, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • • A baby is all Will-as in willpower. To handle his monumental tasks(learning EVERYTHING: to crawl, to be upright, to walk, what each thing he sees or hears IS, how to use his hands…), he HAS to have a powerful will. He has no control over this Will like we adults do. If his attention is caught by something, he truly NEEDS to grab it.This is how his brain is building its intelligence. As his mom, you want to help him do this ALL day long. Think of yourself as feeding his genius and his emotional health with your constant help. As mom and preschool teacher I’ve known hundreds of children. Every child is a genius unless they are blocked by adults. Sometimes it isn't safe for him to grab a thing. So you don't PREVENT him or snatch him away from the object of his focus. You introduce something more interesting and sneak the problem out of sight.

    Answer by waldorfmom at 1:16 PM on Jun. 24, 2008

  • • …To the age of 6/7, don't cut short a child's focus, lead it into the next thing: child's playing train but it's time for dinner? Play WITH the child a minute, then the train comes to the table for dinnertime. You get the idea. Tantrum already started? Our daughter had some doozies. First, recognize that it isn’t HIM & don’t be angry. Realize it is more like a convulsion of the will. Ignore him & let it subside. Let the emotion chemicals wash away. If his limbs might hurt something, hold him in your arms while you go about your business. Don’t try to exert your will onto him – his Will might need to resist that. He is a victim of the tantrum, so soothe him if that helps. Don’t scold him as if he’s a bad boy. You wouldn’t scold him for a rash; he has no more control over his will. Yes, it is possible to scold/punish so strongly that his will is more focused on being scared than it is on learning, but then you have broken his

    Answer by waldorfmom at 1:16 PM on Jun. 24, 2008