I'm with such a great guy. But i cannot stop obsessing about his ex's. I understand that i have insecurity issues, my daddy never loved me....so i guess that kind of gave me "daddy issues" leaving me feeling like less of the great person i really am. So, i'm wondering how do i fix this? Insecurities are very unattractive. The strange thing, is that the jealousy & obsession about his ex's is new. I have never felt this way w/ any other man. Maybe i have trust issues? When we were dating, i knew of woman he had some un finished business with. When she came back from Europe, she stayed at his house for 2 days &, yep..they had sex. MY FAULT....i allowed myself to date him KNOWING WELL that he still needed to figure out his place w/ her. thankfully, he never spoke to her again & said, he now knows she not "the one". Anyhoo, i still obsess about her & his other exes. How do i help this jealousy? How do i make it stop?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:41 PM on Jun. 29, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 3:43 PM on Jun. 29, 2009
I do not consider the "thing" he had w/ that woman cheating. He told me ALL about her, & i took my chances & dated him anyway. But it still hurt like hell when he slept with her. Actually, i told him i was done, that i didn't realize how badly it would hurt. He straight up called her, told her that he was in love w/ someone else & never spoke to her again. So, it worked out for the better anyway.......but i am still digustingly obsessed w/ his ex's. I feel like they were sexier than me, & better in bed. How can i help myself? How can i begin to be more secure in myself?
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Thanks for the advice ladies, thanks for understanding. I certainly do appreciate it, & i appreciate not getting bashed...lol, i always expect one of those when i ask a question. Writing things down...that sounds like a good idea. I will also check out that book, I'm just at a place where i need to start working on this. I'm sick of having self esteem issues. I want to fix this about myself.
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