Okay, off the bat, I'm not personally touched by adoption. My mom was adopted and that is the only link I have but I've been reading a lot about adoption and it seems weird the way people talk about babies in adoption.
I was raised with the belief if you were blessed with more than your neighbor than you helped your neighbor and shared your blessings. You didn't take from them because you had "more" and they had "less."
And yet it seems many here think when it comes to babies and their mothers, the best thing to do is take instead of help and pass the baby off to the "better" candidate.
I just wonder, does anyone else feel sometimes that we are getting to lax in our belief of what is best for a child? It just seems to me that being born to your mother no longer has any meaning and is replaced with the belief that children can be passed on to the next best candidate to be raised.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:51 PM on Jul. 1, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by Southernroots at 2:19 PM on Jul. 1, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 8:56 PM on Jul. 1, 2009
I assume you are talking about domestic infant adoption. Note that this is only one type of adoption. MANY MILLIONS of children NEED families and WAIT for them for many varying reasons. Your question seems callous toward those that have been neglected, abandoned, or unaccepted by a society that frowns on birth outside of marriage to such a degree that the children are shunned and considered second class citizens. These children need mothers and fathers to step up to the plate and make them their OWN!
Answer by Anonymous at 9:21 PM on Jul. 1, 2009
As other posters have pointed out, it is very hard to talk about adoption and lump infant adoption in with foster adoption. The two types of adoption are so completely different I wish there was a different word for each.
In the case of infant adoption I have to totally agree with OP. We are way too cavalier about it, even now when the effect of genetics is a scientific study and adult adoptees are talking about the effect that being passed from one family into another can have. People talk about how the child will be "better off" without thinking about what is lost.
Answer by onethentwins at 9:46 PM on Jul. 1, 2009
I did not just take my child from another woman's arms and think that I can raise this baby better. It was a decision she made as the birthmother to place her child with another family that she believed could provide the best environment possible. It was about her choice to use her neighbors and reach out for support. It was her choice to have her child bond and attach to another woman and have that baby grow up to call me mom. I think that adoption is certainly misunderstood all the way around andthis specific section on CM is no exception.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:53 PM on Jul. 1, 2009