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ihave a 3 yr old and she throws fits over everything like if i dont do something exactly right, if i say no to a snack right after a snack if i tell her not to do something, she will jump up and down and scream. she throws fits in public and i am so frustrated with it well today my husband says take her to the park or do something fun and i feel like she shouldnt be rewarded for the way she acts and if she cant act right at home then she shouldnt be out in public but my husband feels bad for her that she might never get to go out and i told him if he want6s to stay home with her and deal with it he woud feel completly didfferent does anyone agree with me or should i take her out and deal with the fits in public?

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babykins362003

Asked by babykins362003 at 12:54 PM on Jul. 1, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Have you tried to reward her when she does have good behavior? Take her to a place she likes and tell her straight up that if she acts up she will be leaving. You have to condition her to act good in those situations. Also, when she starts to throw tantrums walk away and ignore her, that is her way of getting your attention which in turn reinforces the behavior.
    usmc0351wife

    Answer by usmc0351wife at 12:58 PM on Jul. 1, 2009

  • The above. You have to have a positive with the neg. and she may actually need more outside time to let go of some of that energy. Plus, leaving the park b/c you had a fit is much more concrete that not going unless you go constantly. As soon as she does something good say awesome I like the way yiou___ lets do _____.
    You got to may consequences IMMEDIATE -- they don't really get the whole grounding you are nto going __ b/c ____ b/c its too abstract. They'll get upset for a min. then forget. But if you are AT the park and then LEAVE that is immed.
    YES she will have a fit, but after some time and consistency they get the point and the fits stop.
    Done it with both of mine and ones going for the TONY and the other for the OSCARS the EMMY is up for grabs right now :)
    MamiJaAyla

    Answer by MamiJaAyla at 1:30 PM on Jul. 1, 2009

  • She is 3 years old!! It is perfectly normal for her to be acting like she is. It is part of her development. She is at a point where she isn't a baby but not quite a big girl. She is testing her environment, what she can do, etc. Try IGNORING her when she throws a fit, if you don't acknowledge it, she may stop. Concentrate more on her positive behaviors then the negative ones. If you are in public, take her home. Be overly praiseful when you see her do something positive, even if it is a small thing.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 3:06 PM on Jul. 1, 2009

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