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How do you plan meals when one spouse is a vegetarian and the other REALLY likes meat?

Not long into my pregnancy, I started craving MEAT. Now, my daughter is seven months old and I really want to get back into vegetarianism. I just feel healthier when I eat that way. Here is the issue though....my wonderful darling husband is about as likely to become a vegetarian as he is to get a sex change lol. Since he is a soldier, his work day starts at around 5:30, so the only meal we have together most days in dinner. I need advice on how to plan our evening meal without isolating him, making two completely different dishes (which would just cost too much anyway), or making him eat vegetarian too (not bloody likely).

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EternalChild86

Asked by EternalChild86 at 10:07 PM on Jul. 1, 2009 in Diet & Fitness

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  • stir-fry maybe? yours could just be rice and veggies and just throw a bit of meat or chicken in his? one main dish, but his has a bit extra.

    Not much help. sorry.
    MommyLee08

    Answer by MommyLee08 at 10:19 PM on Jul. 1, 2009

  • We would make a lot of spaghetti or other pastas, then serve the first portions without meat, and then add meat for the other portions. For a period of time, we lived in a 5 bedroom house with another couple and the other couple was vegetarian. We found ways to cook things that you could add meat too. And also, burgers are good, you can make half regular and the other half soy. Or we would make all of the same side dishes and then grill steaks and eggplants.
    Mom1Stepmom1

    Answer by Mom1Stepmom1 at 10:40 PM on Jul. 1, 2009

  • I am vegetarian. I understand that meat is bad for the planet and unhealthy for humans. I will not purchase or prepare it.
    I have many delicious, nutrittious, budget and family friendly recipes that I will be happy to share with you.
    I strongly suggest getting your husband a copy of The China Study by T. Colin Campbell; it makes a strong nutritional argument for vegetarianism.
    I imagine that you will be raising your daughter vegetarian. You need to be prepared with hard facts when the grandmothers tell you children need meat. Here are some websites that I really like:
    ï‚· http://www.vrg.org/nutshell/teen_veg.pdf
    ï‚· http://www.pcrm.org/news/release090402.html
    ï‚· http://www.nutritionmd.org/nutrition_tips/nutrition_tips_infant_nutrition/complete_nutrition.html
    ï‚· http://www.nutritionmd.org/nutrition_tips/nutrition_tips_infant_nutrition/index.html
    ï‚· http://www.pcrm. org/health/ veginfo/vsk/ food_groups. html
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 12:54 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • ï‚· http://www.pcrm. org/health/ veginfo/vsk/ children. html

    You will need to figure out how to explain to your child why Daddy eats animals.

    Feel free to contact me direcly with any questions.
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 1:03 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • WTFH? rkoloms why in the world would she need to explain to HER child why her daddy like meat.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • My husband is a big meat eater and I'm not. Usually when I cook, I make all the side dishes and what I eat and then if he wants meat, he grills it or cooks it himself. When he cooks and makes a steak, I have a portobello mushroom or something instead - and I prepare it. I also "make" him try new vegetarian products that he doesn't know about until he's shoveling them in his face...lol!!

    swrockhead

    Answer by swrockhead at 5:31 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • This probably isn't going to be helpful to you at all, but I am a vegetarian and my husband is not. Mealtime is just go-for-yourself at my house...he makes his meal and I make meals for myself and my kids. Sometimes I make the kids a different meal than what I'm having, so there are times when we're all eating different things. Most of the time we don't all sit down together to eat anyway, so it's not as chaotic as it sounds. We're a very close family in other ways, so I don't let the whole mealtime division bug me. I think hubby wishes I'd grill him a steak or make him meaty casseroles every night, but I was a vegetarian when he met me so it's not like he didn't know what he was getting into! LOL. He's a good sport about it most of the time. But separate meals is the only thing that works at our house.
    vicesix

    Answer by vicesix at 7:30 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • My daughter is a vegetarian in a house full of carnivores, and has been since she was 2. I tried to go with a lot of meals where it wasn't much trouble to take some out for for her before adding the meat for us, and to be sure and have enough optional side items for her to make a meal off of if necessary. And there would be times where separate meals and "fix-your-own" were our best option, too. I'm no one's short-order cook, never have been, but I grew up in a household where every meal was a battleground. If you are opposed to cooking his meat for him, maybe a good option for you guys would be for you to plan a strictly vegetarian menu, and have prepared meats from the grocery deli always on hand for him to have along with his meal. He could have it as is, or chop it up and add it in...it might be a good compromise.
    roachiesmom

    Answer by roachiesmom at 8:21 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

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