would you tell your sister if her 13 year old daughter was having sex?
my niece confided in me and i have given her an ultimatum to tell her mom by sunday or i will tell her myself. i feel she is too young to be making adult decisions and she should face the consequences of her actions. i told her if she fesses up herself, i will be there for moral support. but god, i feel like if she would get pregnant or an std, i would be partly responsible. i cant even sleep because of this. i still remember the day she came home from the hospital. she is an honors student, extremely athletic, beautiful, and seriously is so NOT attention deprived. she goes to church and attends all the functions. i cried when she told me because she just has so much potential. what is your take on this??? she said she is scared of losing my sis's trust, cell phone...but not scared to lose the big V, i asked her???
Asked by Anonymous at 7:45 AM on Jul. 2, 2009 in Teens (13-17)
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Answer by Anonymous at 2:49 AM on Jul. 3, 2009
Maybe she told you knowing you would tell her mom! Maybe she knows she needs her mom to know what she is doing, but she just doesn't want to be the one to tell her. Maybe she is afraid of her mom's reaction. I think you did the right thing. You gave her a set time for her to do the right thing and tell her mother herself. Since you made the ultimatum 'or I will' then that is exactly what you have to do! If she has not told her mother by Sunday, you have to tell her yourself. Maybe ask your niece if she would like to be present. Tell her you will be there with her when she tells her mom if she wants you to be there. Tell her if she is going to be making grown up decisions she needs to be grown up enough to handle what may come from those decisions. If she is doing something she can't tell her mother about, then she isn't mature enough to be doing those things! You must be a great influence on her! Keep it up.
Answer by SimplyLaine at 5:05 AM on Jul. 3, 2009