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Im Lost...

me and my boyfriend were talking and he said he never wants to get married...and then said but baby if you want a ring i will get you a ring. what does that mean?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:11 PM on Jul. 2, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Ask him!

    Answer by psugal at 10:11 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • It means he is commited to you enough, and does not need a peice of paper...Or that he thinks that there may be someone better out there...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:12 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • wow interesting....i think hes definitly comitted to you. but if a guy says he doesnt want to get married he doesnt. so i dont know why he would offer you a ring. maybe he just wants you to know that he cares. guys can be so confusing sometimes....sorry

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:13 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • he also said he doesnt need a piece of paper to tell him that he is with the one he loves...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:13 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • some people just don't believe in marriage anymore (can you blame them? Look at the divorce rate!) So maybe he just wants to save himself the trouble...

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:19 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • It means that he is committed to you but doesn't need someone to confirm it before an audience. If you want the ring then go for it, but in some states they do recognize long term relationships of several years similar to marriage (common law).

    Answer by coala at 10:35 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • Okayy Thank You Moms :)

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:40 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • it means he thinks you will not nag him about marriage if he gets you a token gift.

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:47 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • It means what he said , he does now want to get married but if you want a ring to help show that he is committed to you, he will get you one. You need to be honest with your self and if you really want to get married one day, you have to realize that you may not be able to change his mind, can you live with that ?

    Answer by my2kids312 at 11:42 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

  • nothing it means nothing he is just saying if a ring will apease you and get you to not bring up the M word that is what he will give you in place of truly showing you and the world that you are the one to marry and want for all time. i suggest you tell him to choke on the ring and dump him. why wait or try to change his mind. it's clear as the nose on your face he doesn't want to marry you and that doesn't mean maybe later. a man knows when he finds the woman he wants to marry.

    also people who truly believe in marriage stay married. it's people like your boyfriend who get broken down and later wish they never had. i totally disagree with most of the posters above. the divorce rate is due to people who have slacked on what marraige means and give up on their marraige to quickly. my husband is not perfect nor am i and sometimes it;s easier to not be married at all but i am and no matter what i will work and forgive in it.

    Answer by melody77 at 11:43 PM on Jul. 2, 2009

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