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my alcoholic brother

he woke up with a swollen face and lips like really bad. we're all thinking that his liver or kidneys is telling something is up. he thinks it's the pain killers pills he has been taking but that should of showed up right away and that would of been 3 days ago. let me get more detailed. been a drinker for yrs. was locked up for almost 5 yrs. relasped got clean and started going off deep end about a month or 2 ago but like really bad. my mother took him on cruise with his son and mine. the whole time there he drank. his stupid wife gave him her credit card to spend on the cruise. we feel if she hadn;t done that he'd have no money to drink with. anyway my question is about the swelling is his body telling him he 's close to dying of alcohol poisoning? we think so........that would suck.


Asked by melody77 at 8:58 PM on Jul. 3, 2009 in Health

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  • Sad it is. Alcoholism is a horrible disease. When the body can't withstand the abuse anymore it will send flares out...edema (swelling) will set it and the face, eyes and lips are effected. Many alcoholics over time of drinking abuse will also become allergic to the alcohol in their system. By taking the advice of rkoloms who posted contacting Alanon is very wise for they not only help the alcoholic but they help the family in dealing with it as well. You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make them drink (the water)....he needs help but all the help in the world will not do if he truly doesn't want it or isn't given the proper means to kick it. This means taking out of the home things such as mouthwash and even vanilla extract....good luck to your family and to him.

    Answer by jamievolner at 9:43 PM on Jul. 3, 2009

  • Don't blame his drinking on his "stupid wife giving him a credit card". He's an adult...he's made the choice.
    He doesn't have alcohol poisoning....he has cirhossis of the liver.

    Answer by EireLass at 9:04 PM on Jul. 3, 2009

  • first of all i grew up with alcoholic my mother you and your family need to stop it now or he will die have your mother sign him into a rehab and if he wont go call the police say its for his own good and yes they will do that
    and yes it sound like poison to me if he doesnt get help he will die if he is married his wife needs to sign him in get him help now

    Answer by nakita72 at 9:04 PM on Jul. 3, 2009

  • You need to contact Alanon.

    You need to find medical help for your brother: Google "Community Health Centers" to find the master Web site of government-run health clinics that will see anyone, regardless of their ability to pay. You can drill down to find the location of a clinic near you

    Answer by rkoloms at 9:32 PM on Jul. 3, 2009

  • I know someone that became allergic to alcohol. It is dangerous and it can kill you if your throat closes from the angio-edema. He was afraid when it happened to him. He wouldn't drink for long periods, then he would do it again. He ended up in the hospital to control his symptoms from it.


    Answer by Janet at 2:20 PM on Jul. 5, 2009

  • First, he is an ADULT and made his own choices. If he had alcohol poisioning, he would likely die right away not days, weeks or months later. Sorry, to say but there is NOTHING you can do or say to him to help him see his ways. He will NOT do anything to stop the drinking until he is ready and he may die before that happens. He could had cirrosis of the liver and his body is shutting down. There is NO ONE to blame for his problems but HIM. The wife is not to blame for giving him her credit card to use on vacation. When an alcoholic wants alcohol, lack of money is NOT going to stop them, they will find a way. Some will drink mouth wash or cough syrup because a lot of those have alcohol in them. You can try an intervention, but he will not get help until he is ready and he cannot be forced to stop drinking. Alcoholism is a horrible and deadly disease.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 3:11 PM on Jul. 5, 2009