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How do you know your man won't just take off and leave. The father of my soon to baby is giving mixed signals. He just stops calling for several days randomly. .

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:11 AM on Jun. 22, 2008 in Pregnancy

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  • then play along with his game. don't be available every time he decides he want's to call or come by. if he starts asking what's up then tell him your not a door mat. he's either in or he's out cuz you don't need a "part-time" daddy and neither does your baby.

    Answer by SamsMom125 at 2:19 AM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • you dont no, thats why its called trust and if he is messin with you sit him down and talk to him about everything he maybe feeling a bit mixed up him self,

    Answer by sammy04k at 10:56 AM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • oh honey, men are just wired differently than us. i've been with my husband for 13 years and married for 8 and i've learned that men don't become fathers when their significant other is pregnant, they become fathers when they see their baby.try talking to him without getting angry, i know it's hard with all those hormones, and tell him what you would like him to do for you and what hurts you. they aren't always good at reading us like we are at reading them. and if he continues, don't sweat it, focus on your pregnancy and ENJOY it. it's a beautiful time in your life. don't let him ruin it. and maybe he will see that special glow of yours and be drawn to that. most men are afraid of anything that requires commitment. some give in right away and realize it's not so bad and others take little longer and some never even give it a try. just take it one day at time.

    Answer by lilmommy81 at 11:21 AM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • Don't always be available for him. Let him know he's either in your life or out of it but you're not just going to sit around waiting for him to decide what he wants to do. You're both the child's parents so it will be important for the child to see his father but it should be a consistent thing, not just whenever he feels like it.

    Answer by Eliza34 at 12:25 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

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