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Why don't women just leave thier abusive partners?

Women often don’t leave domestic violence because they know that when they do leave the danger of more severe violence increases dramatically. Violence, and the sheer terror of it, is one of the principle reasons women don’t leave. And the women are right!

Fact: When domestic violence victims attempt to leave the relationship, the stalking and violence almost always escalates sharply as the perpetrator attempts to regain control.
Fact: The majority of domestic violence homicides occur as a woman attempts to leave or after she has left.

Fact: The most serious domestic violence injuries are perpetrated against women who have separated from the perpetrator.

The women know these dangers. They know them because they’ve already experienced the violent responses when they’ve attempted to assert themselves, even minimally, within the relationship.


Asked by Anonymous at 1:19 AM on Jul. 4, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (4)
  • This a very typical question people ask & very insensitive. As a victim of domestic violence in my past, 8 years to be exact, thank you to who ever wrote this. Domestic violence is very serious & the women are always the victims. No one should ever get turned away for help because someone believes they "put up with" the violence to long.

    Answer by luvmyangels3 at 1:51 AM on Jul. 4, 2009


    Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.  Hotline advocates are available for victims and anyone calling on their behalf to provide crisis intervention, safety planning, information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 170 languages through interpreter services.

    If you or someone you know is frightened about something in your relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.


    Answer by VeronicaLee at 1:23 AM on Jul. 4, 2009

  • Well if you havent been in there shoes you should mind your own bussiness. Don't talk if your inexpirienced. And if people wanted help or wanted to escape they know where to find it, they aint stupid.

    Answer by katsogrimey at 2:08 AM on Jul. 4, 2009

  • "Well if you havent been in there shoes you should mind your own bussiness. Don't talk if your inexpirienced."

    Wow! Did you even read this post? Or did you just read the title??

    Obviously the author knew what she was talking about, In fact the original author is a former battered woman that now runs workshops all over the place to educate people like, Social workers, DFACS workers, Doctors and Nurses, about the dynamics of domestic abuse.


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:27 PM on Jul. 4, 2009