My sister visiting from out of town told me about it tonight, and to be nice.... she sounded a little crazy. She claims that skinny, beautiful moms are only nice to each other and not to other moms who are overweight or don't fit the "beautiful mold" our society has. She says that moms at her kids playgroup, kindergarten, swimming classes, church, and at the park are not nice to her purely because she is "fat and ugly" (her words). Also she says they don't want their kids playing with hers because of the way she looks. She says they look down on her because they think she let herself go after she had kids. She thinks their opinion is women need to stay attractive for their husbands and that letting yourself get fat is worse than being a bad mom.
I have never heard of anything like this. Obviously I know women are catty and judgmental of each other. But this seems a bit extreme and maybe like it is all in my sis's head.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:08 AM on Jul. 4, 2009 in General Parenting
That does sound pretty weird. Although I am sure there are moms out there that do think and feel that way, it is not the majority. Most of us out grow that immature thinking in high school (if we even had it in the first place).
What I think from reading this is that your sister has self esteem issues. She called herself fat and ugly, that is a red flag right there. What she perceives as women who are excluding her because they are "prettier" are probably women who are already friends or related. They most likely have no idea that your sister thinks this way about them and don't have any of the beliefs that she thinks they do.
Your sister needs to work on building her own self esteem instead of putting others down to feel better about herself.
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