my and my husband started dating when my daughter was just 2month old and now we have been married for 3 years he really wants to adopt her but we really dont know what to do ?
Just go to the courts. The father would have to sign off on it though & give up his parental rights. A friend of mine got around that 'cause she couldn't contact the father. She put an ad in the newspaper that so and so want's to adopt this child if the father does not come forward in X amount of day's then so and so will be granted the rights to adopt said child.
Go see a lawyer, explain everything and it should be simple. As long as the birth father hasn't had any contact with your daughter in at least 2 years, there is no nothing standing in the way. Good luck and God Bless