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i think i am insane

so my hubby has never givin me a reason to not trust him, he is a great father and husband but one of his friends from his partying days is moving back and im terrified he is gunna fall back into drinking and stuff i tried to tallk to him and he just gets mad. i am really worried and dont think i could handle it if he did mess up we have a 3month old daughter and a great life. i jus keep starting fights for no eason cus i kinda jus want to leave and not deal with any of it. and im prolly jus overreacting but i really dont want to deal with it.

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mayo9mommy

Asked by mayo9mommy at 3:39 AM on Jul. 6, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Ur making something out of nothing. Dnt ruin ur relationship. He hasnt done nething. Leaving would b stupid.
    ChaoticSoul

    Answer by ChaoticSoul at 3:50 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • You do have a right to be concerned, but you are causing your worry to drive a wedge between you and your husband. He has shown you that (in your own words) "he is a great father and husband." When you keep bringing up the subject of his old friend and you not wanting him to go back to the partying days, you are telling your husband that you have no trust in him and he has to do more to prove himself to you. You've voiced your concern, he knows where you stand. Instead of bringing up the old friend and the old ways, try to just love him and show support for all he does. Praise him for being that wonderful husband and father. Make him feel like the most important man in the world. Make his home his haven, the place he can go to relax, unwind and be surrounded by love. He won't want to go drinking and partying with his old buddy when he has a loving and supportive family just inside the door to his sanctuary.
    SewingVeronica

    Answer by SewingVeronica at 3:53 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • Sewingveronica said it. Stop what your doing!
    raemommy

    Answer by raemommy at 4:03 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • If he has not given you a reason not to trust you probably don't need to worry, but he needs to understand your concern I would more worried about your communication he needs to listen to you. Plus you just had a baby and should be expected to be silly on these things for a while. Also I understand your concern guys get different around old friend especially if the friend is single. Single friends don't usually get that things are different now. You need to tell how you feel if he wont listen write him a letter and you need to discuss this communication issue.

    hot-mama86

    Answer by hot-mama86 at 4:09 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • listen to SewingVeronica- Smart lady.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:14 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • yeah, you are insane!! JK, LOL!! seriously though, wait and see what happens first. give the man a chance girlfriend!!
    nairda

    Answer by nairda at 4:45 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • Postpartum Anxiety and/or Panic Disorder. What is Postpartum Anxiety and Panic Disorder?women affected by a postpartum anxiety and/or panic disorder experience excessive worries and fears regarding their child as well as their own actions. This postpartum mood disorder can cause women to suffer from debilitating panic attacks, experience overwhelming anxiety, and possibly even agoraphobia (an abnormal fear of open or public spaces). Symptoms of Postpartum Anxiety and/or Panic Disorder
    Onset of the disorder may occur within the first few days after birth or come on more gradually during the first year after birth.


    i personally have this and i felt the way you do. talk to your dr he/she can halp
    cokalea

    Answer by cokalea at 9:12 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • well of course he's upset. has he not shown you that he is a good man? it's okay to make sure you both understand the new rules/expectations, but don't assume anything and if he says it's all good then you just need to let it go. if your fears do end up getting backup then talk about it again... but expect him to be a good husband and father. we all grow up eventually - hopefully he has and can keep the friendships in a manner that doesn't upset the marriage.
    figaro8895

    Answer by figaro8895 at 9:46 AM on Jul. 6, 2009

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