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How Come?? Who really should be given Custody??

How come a woman can go get an abortion with NO questions asked by the clinic about who the father is, where is he, does he give consent, and etc.....

Yet the second that baby is born, long lost daddy, who couldn't have given a f**** during the pregnancy, didn't want the kid all thru the pregnancy, and refused to help pay any sort of bills related to the baby, can now come around demanding a paternity test to prove he's the daddy as well as demanding half custody?!?!?

If she was about to have an abortion but ended up not, shouldn't he be written of as father right then and there, esp. if her now husband was the one to say NO and save the child's life and pay for all it's bills, he should just be named daddy!

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Asked by SouthernRoses at 12:17 PM on Jul. 6, 2009 in Pregnancy

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  • I would take it to court and see what they say. It's a fucked up situation for sure, but laws are stupid sometimes...

    Answer by kitten_shuga at 12:25 PM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • This is not how I see it, but some see it as when a woman is pregnant it is part of her body and sometimes not even "a baby" yet, a living being, until it is born. It is a constitutional right for a woman to have rights over her body, it doesn't say rights to ones child while in the womb. After the baby is born, then it is a living being and the parents have rights..
    I think we all understand the man thing, men are ignorant and they like to have any kind of control that they can.. but, yeah/

    Answer by MickeysMom19 at 12:25 PM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • Tell the baby's father that if he wants custody he will also have to pay child support. So tell him hey you didn't want to pay anything before do you really want to be on the line for 18 years of child support. Then tell him that you will be more than welcome to let him sign away his rights. But if that doesn't work and he wants to see the child and the judge says he can you will half to. I doubt he will get half custody. You will probably have full custody he will just get visitaion rights,

    Answer by TeriMelisa at 12:34 PM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • No because most men don't act like father's until the child is born, especially when they are not with the mother

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:38 PM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • Men, even ones that experience pregnancy every day with their SO don't recognize the reality of the whole situation until after the baby is born and they are seeing and holding their child. It's a completely different experience for them. Maybe this guy has now seen the mistake he's made and he doesn't want this child to feel like his father didn't want him. Regardless of the situation you dealt with during your pregnancy this child will eventually want to know his biological father and a nine month mistake by being absent will be minimal in his eyes compared to a lifetime relationship they could possibly form.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on Jul. 6, 2009

  • Also she is trying to put her child's best interest first. The main reason she left her ex, the father, is because he has MANY psychological problems. She also doesn't want her son to pick up on his beliefs or ideas, like how he believes it is okay to torture and kill stray cats and dogs. He also has anger issues and she doesn't want him around her son in case he were to get hurt.

    Answer by SouthernRoses at 3:22 PM on Jul. 6, 2009

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