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DIVORSE HELP PLEASE!

My common law husband of 17yrs. recently told me he wants a divorce,we have 2 children together.He is the sole provider and I am the sole caretaker. I have been shocked into the reality that i need to find work IMMEDIATELY and I have lost count of how many places i have applied to. He is ,for now still living here,in the basement,he comes in only at night.We have not seen him sober in about 2 months. (drinking) But for right now he is still paying rent and utilities (thank God) The thing is I have no idea how to get a divorce or what to do?

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flowerchid72

Asked by flowerchid72 at 7:02 PM on Jul. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Common Law Marriage States
    Under the common law marriage doctrine, you are considered legally married, despite not having a marriage license, a ceremony, or a marriage certificate, if you meet specific requirements listed in the statutes of the jurisdiction where you live. The benefits of common law marriage include the right to inherit upon the death of one spouse and the right to spousal support and an equitable division of property should the marriage terminate. The jurisdictions that recognize common law marriage and the requirements of each are listed below. In addition, various other states will recognize a common law marriage if it was valid in one of these states and meets these requirements, even though those states do not themselves have statutes providing for common law marriages.

    Alabama. In this state, the parties must agree to be husband and wife, they must have the mental capacity to enter into and understand s
    neveragain17

    Answer by neveragain17 at 7:07 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

  • such an agreement, and they must consummate the marital relationship.

    Colorado. In order for a common law marriage to exist in Colorado, the relationship must be proven by the cohabitation of the common law spouses and their reputation for being married.

    District of Columbia. In the District, a common law marriage is established by the parties' explicit intent to be married and by their cohabitation.

    Iowa. A common law marriage is established in Iowa by the parties' intent and agreement to be married, their continuous cohabitation, and their public declarations that they are husband and wife.
    neveragain17

    Answer by neveragain17 at 7:07 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

  • Kansas. In Kansas, the man and woman must have the mental capacity to marry, they must agree to be married at the present time, and they must represent to the public that they are married in order for a common law marriage to exist.

    New Hampshire. This state recognizes common law marriages only upon the death of one of the spouses. In other words, common law marriages are recognized in New Hampshire for inheritance purposes only.
    neveragain17

    Answer by neveragain17 at 7:08 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

  • Montana. In Montana, the parties must have the capacity to consent to marriage, they must agree to be married, they must cohabitate, and they must have a reputation of being married.

    Oklahoma. The parties must be competent, agree to enter into a marriage relationship, and cohabitate in order to be considered as having a common law marriage.

    Pennsylvania. A common law marriage is established in Pennsylvania by the exchanging of words between a man and a woman indicating an intent to be married at the present time.
    neveragain17

    Answer by neveragain17 at 7:08 PM on Jul. 7, 2009


  • Rhode Island. In Rhode Island, a common law marriage exists if a man and woman have a serious intent to be married and engage in conduct that leads to a reasonable belief by others in the community that they are married.

    South Carolina. In this state, if a man and woman intend for others to believe they are married, a common law marriage may be established.

    Texas. If a man and woman in Texas sign a form provided by the county clerk, agree to be married, cohabitate, and represent to others that they are married, a common law marriage exists.

    Utah. In Utah, a common law marriage is established if the man and woman are capable of giving consent and getting married, if they cohabitate, and if they have a reputation of being husband and wife
    neveragain17

    Answer by neveragain17 at 7:08 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

  • I'm sorry, I forgot to mention that I live in Colorado, and we do have do go through all the formalities of a recognized marriage. I just don't know were to start.
    flowerchid72

    Answer by flowerchid72 at 7:33 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

  • if you don't want it don't do anything. if he wants it make him work for it. Don't make it easy for him. Meanwhile you might consider getting a job and making plans for the transition when it does happen.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:22 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

  • p.s. Also check with the local college and see if there is a Displaced Homemaker Program. It's for women like you who have to start all over again but not sure how to go about it.
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:23 PM on Jul. 7, 2009

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