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how can i change our routine for my 3yr old 4 yr old and 5 yr old?

i have to have some kind of routine or chart or something, my life is out of control and i don't feel like i have any control over them, we don't really have a bed time , most of the time when i cook i have one or two trying to not eat and want to snack later, and i don't know what to do about the way my kids talk to me , they act like they are grown and i don't think beating their asses is goin to change anything, HELP! HELP! PLEASE!!

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destiny2

Asked by destiny2 at 4:56 PM on Jul. 8, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • As for the eating, set a specific time that everyone sits down and eats.. If one chooses not to sit down and eat wrap their food up and then they can atleast sit as everyone else is eating and be quiet. Then once everyone is done they can go play. If they come back later and want to snack warm their food up from earlier and offer it to them, if they don't want to eat it then don't give them anything else. It will only take a few days before they realize they need to eat their dinner if they want a snack before bed. It isnt going to harm them going to bed without eating anything for dinner and it will teach them they aren't running the show.
    KalebsMommee

    Answer by KalebsMommee at 7:41 PM on Jul. 8, 2009

  • Also, you need to set a bedtime. Kids need routine and structure otherwise they are unruly (As it seems your kids may already be) Set a bedtime routine and stick to it. Things will be so much easier for you.
    KalebsMommee

    Answer by KalebsMommee at 7:41 PM on Jul. 8, 2009

  • Set a bedtime. Period, end of discussion.

    Set meal times. Either they eat what you put in front of them, or they don't eat until THE NEXT MEAL.

    Stand their butts in the corner (actually, their noses) until they say they will do as you say, listen to you. If they don't, but their noses right back there. Ignore them while they're standing there.

    Start today. Not tomorrow, not next week, NOW. Otherwise, you'll keep putting it off.

    Listen to them cry and scream, make sure they're not broke or bleeding and then tell them to knock it off and behave themselves as they are expected to do.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:43 PM on Jul. 8, 2009

  • set a schedule for the whole week. chores, grocery, kid activity time, dinners, snacks, etc. Write it down and stick to it. Kids are funny little creatures. They need structure and discipline from you just as badly as you need it. It will make them feel more secure and calmer once they know what to expect.
    Especially with the 3 and 4 year old, start reward chart (doesn't have to be fancy, a peice of paper on the fridger with a row of boxes), have a treasure chest of dollar store toys, after 5 stickers, they get a toy. At that age, they don't always understand punishments like losing toys and stuff.
    pat7879

    Answer by pat7879 at 10:06 PM on Jul. 8, 2009

  • About the back talk- once they start talking like they are grown, it's hard to get it to stop. But set the rules and never back down, you will have to pick the punishment and do it over and over even when you think it's not working, because it is. Once they get the hang of the reward chart system, you can start removing stickers or coins and then they will see visually how their behaivor keeps them from getting what they want. (You have to make good choices to get good things).

    If you don't go to church already, maybe that will help them. one, you can take them to sunday school and someone else can reinforce a few things while you relax in your own class and grown up service. Also, it's a good foundation to build on.

    Sorry to ramble, hope some of this helps.
    pat7879

    Answer by pat7879 at 10:14 PM on Jul. 8, 2009

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