OK, lots of you know that my DH and I are trying to adopt thru foster care. I was watching yesterday's show of Dr. Phil (who I like, but don't worship....LOL!) and was a little taken back by the way this 15 y/o was discouraged from open adoption. A guest who had been adopted maybe 40+ years ago, who was raised in a closed adoption, search for her parents as an adult and met them. She said the RU went sour when dad asked for a paternity test (ended relationship) and mom was so "guilt-ridden" that it affected their relationship. They have spoken in 5 years.
I don't care what side of the adoption triad that you are on, it seemed pretty one-sided, and I was disappointed that there wasn't any pros & cons, just cons.
The adoption agency worker seemed to want to lower her expectations of OA, saying "a lot of adoptions don't start out as open.....as with any relationship, you want that trust to develop." Huh? (Con't. below)
Answer by doodlebopfan at 6:21 PM on Jul. 8, 2009
This is the link to 7/7/09 show about adoption. http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/1230
This is the 7/6/09 show where she says she won't consider abortion, so they tell her she has to choose between keeping the baby or placing it for adoption. Sadly, the grandparents-to-be would rather see the pregnancy terminated than her put their grandchild up for adoption. But they don't want to help her with the baby, so what choice does she really have at 15 y/o? http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/1229
All I can say is, Wow! Talk about the pressure of teenage pregnancy!
Answer by doodlebopfan at 7:00 PM on Jul. 8, 2009
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Answer by Southernroots at 12:25 PM on Jul. 9, 2009
Be sure to set your DVR for the final "16 and Pregnant". It's about adoption. And this expectant mom doesn't even want to see her baby when she has it! http://www.mtv.com/videos/misc/408455/better-for-my-baby.jhtml#id=1615135
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