is your church really close and like a 2nd family?
if this works out and i do start attending....that would be different for me. because of my past unfotunately im not a trusting person, and im very guarded.....its really hard for me to hug someone i dont know or let my guard down and be vulnerable to ppl. maybe it will be good for me. break me out of this anti social ,non trusting shell. im always ready to go on the defensive, the soldier in me is already prepared to pounce....and im sure that is half the reason i get stress knots all over my back and have mild insomnia
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Answer by Anonymous at 10:34 PM on Jul. 8, 2009
We are, because we have gone through some hard times of late (pastor change and dealing with issues about that). Many, many people have left the church for various reasons. The ones who have stayed tend to be the ones that have been members for over 10 years. We've watched each other's kids grow up. In some cases it's 3rd generation now. So you don't share that much history as a church, and as individuals and not become close.
Don't be afraid to express it if you don't want to be hugged. Physical expressions of affection are not always comfortable. And they certainly don't mark the amount of love people feel. No one should hug or be hugged if they don't want to. I know of a gentleman at our church who doesn't in general hug women other than his wife. He is older and feels that it can be misunderstood. I have known him for 16 or 17 years and he just lately has started giving one arm hugs. That's just him.
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