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My 4 yr.old is acting out i have been i a relationship for a while and we have recently got engaged. We have also moved in together, on top of that my sons father ans his "unofficial" girlfriend are expectin....and she has a young son already. I'm not sure if my son is feeling like he is lacking attention, but he is really acting out at school being angry and cryin, and doesn't listen to the teachers. I have tryed to talk to him and he wont talk i even sat down with him and his father and nothing do i take him to see a counsler? Ii just dont know can anyone help!!!!!

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Asked by JJMOM0515 at 12:59 AM on Jul. 9, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • I bet you it's cuz he feels that he isn't getting enough attention and major changes are happening in his life momy not with daddy and living with another man and daddy not with mommy and he will have a sibling, he is going through a really hard time and he needs as much attention as posible try to see all this from his shoes just give him a lot of love he really needs it

    Answer by looovemybabies at 1:06 AM on Jul. 9, 2009

  • A counselor may be a good idea, if only because they can help him learn different ways of processing his emotions so that he doesn't get stuck in feeling like he's left out or has no control over what all the big people in his life are doing. It's worth a try to get someone else involved who can help both your son and you learn different ways of communicating, too.

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 10:09 AM on Jul. 9, 2009

  • maybe dad and new girlfriend can have a party for the Big Brother to be. Make him feel more important about the baby on the way. Dad can have presents put aside so when people give presents to woman that is expecting baby, and then after baby arrives, your son can get a little attention as the Big Brother

    time any understanding the changes for him...patience

    Answer by boredmom44 at 12:16 PM on Jul. 9, 2009

  • That's a lot of change in a young kids life. Kids acting out when new siblings or other major life changes aren't necessarily attention seeking, or at least ONLY attention seeking. Remember, adults often struggle to develop and put to use good stress management tools. Children are even less likely to be equipped to handle major change without problem. He's got a lot going on in his world right now and may not have the tools to express his feelings about it or even recognize what his feelings, worries, thoughts on it all are. It simply manifests as bad behavior. Try giving him the vocabulary to express what he's going through and to help him identify what he may be experiencing. Recognize that he may need some extra attention for a while. Work to reassure him.

    Answer by ldmrmom at 2:14 PM on Jul. 9, 2009

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