My DF and I have been together for over 5 years now. We have two children 3yrs& 7months. We cannot seem to keep our house clean. I am not saying that he is the only culprit though. I need his help coming up with a plan to help us keep it up. However, everytime I ask him for ideas on how to do this, he says I don't know and gets mad at me for asking. He would rather play on his computer all day long and not clean the house or anything else. We both work full-time, so I don't feel that there is any reason why we both can't help keep the house clean. However, I feel like I am always the one stuck with cleaning it because otherwise it won't happen. Almost the only time that he does help is if I continuously get on him about it not being clean or just get mad at him. What do I do?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:00 PM on Jul. 9, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by VasquezFamily at 2:04 PM on Jul. 9, 2009
Do what I did...I quit do anything but the bare minimum. I made sure the girls had clean clothes and o/c I had clean clothes but as for him he had to do his own laundry. As for cooking and cleaning I worked nights so he HAD to cook unless I did it before I left but I conveniently forgot. And the cleaning he would gripe about I told him if he wanted it clean then he better get off his ass and get to it. Now I'm not a lazy bitch it's just he would come home and sit in is recliner and not even acknowledge his family was there. I worked nights and need to get supper done, girls bathed, myself dressed and out the door by 4:45 to get to work and he wouldn't help me so I put my foot down
Answer by luvmygrlz at 2:08 PM on Jul. 9, 2009
Answer by MizLee at 2:35 PM on Jul. 9, 2009
This is what I do...( and we both work)
Who ever comes home first....cooks dinner...
Who ever is last in the bed....makes it...
After dinner there is usually clothes to fold, dishes to clean, a bath for my daughter, etc etc..
I will say to him....do you want to do the dishes or the clothes...and he picks one..
then I will say do you want to give Dee the bath, or fold the laundry...
One rule in my home is...If I am still standing and doing chores, he is to help out...
help out and not sit is butt on the computer.. It works...but once again you have to have two people that want to make it work.. good luck...
Answer by Dannee at 2:42 PM on Jul. 9, 2009
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 2:43 PM on Jul. 9, 2009
Answer by TweenAndTwinMom at 2:47 PM on Jul. 9, 2009