I'm now 32 weeks prego, and am totally sober, but unfortunately(sp?) I used to have a little cocaine problem & smoke(cigs) & drink heavily. I quit everything as soon as I found out I was preg, & have no problem with that. My boyfriend, however, convinced me to go to the bar with him last night "just for 1 drink", which I like to avoid, just personal preference & me being a martyr because I can't drink(Silly, I know!!)! So we go, stay for much longer than 1 drink, mind you I have to work this am, AND when we finally do get home, he ends up blowing lines RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! I mean, I was PISSED...he told me I'm over-reacting because I got WAAAY heated & ended up sleeping on the couch. I'm SO happy I'm pregnent & can't wait to meet my lil girl, but I really view her father as 1 of the big mistakes in my life-I know, sounds absolutely horrible...& fyi, I was ON bc when I got preg, so I was being responsible! Thanks for listeningAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 8:26 AM on Jul. 11, 2009 in Relationships
I think your BF is a jerk that needs some help with his drug addiction. I also think that you are in a vulnerable position and it is dangerous for you to be around him right now. You are strong and I applaud you for not joining him last night.
I wish I had some really good advice on how to get him to sober up, but its going to be totally up to him to do that for himself. Is there anywhere you can stay (friend, parent, ect)? I worry that if he gets busted, you'll go down with him and then who will take care of that baby? You don't want to give birth in jail....
I'm so sorry that he is putting you in such a bad position! My ex was the same way, and as far as I know he still hasn't sobered up. I left him three years ago.
Answer by VeronicaLee at 8:39 AM on Jul. 11, 2009
"which I like to avoid, just personal preference & me being a martyr because I can't drink(Silly, I know"
I almost forgot.... just because you are doing what is right doesn't make you a "Martyr"! And no, it is NOT silly to want to stay away from that temptation!! You are doing the right thing by staying away from alcohol and drugs whether you are partaking in them or not!
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