First off this situations a little sticky, Im 22 my bf's 37. My child is going to be 4, his are 13,soon to be 18 and he has a 14 yr old everyother wknd.We moved in together, and im having sooo many problems with the kids, the 13 yr old boy doesnt listen to me at all no matter what tactics i try to use he will not help at all. The 17 yr old thinks shes queen and everything has to be her way, shes leaving for college soon and i hope that helps, but for instince today she was texting the 14yr old talking about me, and accidently sent a message about me to me! how rude for 1 and how do i deal with this? my bf is all upset and expects that i be fine that hurt, i understand he shouldnt have to pick me or the kids but how do you get this to work? Ive been nothing but nice, giving them money,throwing them parties, even to give my laptop up for her for college! Im sooo sick of being refered to as SHE. how do i get them to respect me?
Don't do any more little extras no matter what you say or do it still some how makes you feel like you haven't done enough. Just do what you can but don't over do it (just to keep yourself sane...lol) Treat them with love and care and that is all Yeah they'll appreciate it but they also need to make you feel like your special as well, until they change their ways towards you you just do enough to get by with them. Like you said the girl will be leaving to college soon and hell yeah that will help after she leaves just let the boy be a boy and yes he needs to get off his butt and do something around the house as well. It can not be all on you all of the time. GL
And get your laptop back get her a used one from the pawn shop you don't know how she will be treating it..that is my thought you know her better than I.
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 2:40 PM on Jul. 12, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:17 PM on Jul. 11, 2009
When the kids are as close to your age as they are, respect is gonna have to be earned. It seems as though you've been trying to "buy" their respect and kids can see right through that. You are not in any position to discipline them or anything like that. That is their father's place to do that. They probably resent the fact that their father is seeing someone as close in age with them as you are, and living with their father isn't a wise thing to do in any case. It seems that the kids have no respect for you and demanding it isn't gonna work.
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