My husband has numerous younger friends. Mostly that he works with. None of them are reliable workers nor have a pot to piss in. We are making 2 mortgage pymts and work full time. At work and with house chores. (I'm the more responsible one)
The problem is these guys are constantly asking for things. Whether it be borrowing the lawn mower or borrowing $5.00. And my husbands ussually gives in. Always!
Now, I drive a hard bargain. I think everyone should work for what they need. Which makes me not so friendly and I get soo annoyed with my husband, and its always just a repeat. I don't socialize much with people other than at work. Which makes it even harder to understand his genorosity towards others.
What should I do: 1. Learn to socialize more so I can understand the giving affect.
2. Just chalk it up to he's a real nice guy who likes to help everyone out he can.
I work too hard for what I/we have.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:11 PM on Jul. 12, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Butterfly1108 at 4:18 PM on Jul. 12, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 4:18 PM on Jul. 12, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 5:04 PM on Jul. 12, 2009
I think your husband is a blessing, and here is why. In a world where there is so much hatred and violence, where we are afraid to trust people in our own neighborhoods, your husband is the one person who is willing to stop and help someone in need. You may not think of it as a need, but lending the lawn mower or giving a few bucks to someone who needs it; these are just a few things that a generous caring person does. You look at it like it is a horrible thing. Imagine if you were in a situation where you needed a few bucks or needed the to borrow a lawn mower. Would you be understanding if someone said no, I work hard for what I have and you obviously don't work as hard as I do. How do you know that there people he are helping aren't in some type of strain. I hope you will realize your husband is a wonderful man and his giving is more than a blessing to those in need and start being more like him.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 6:52 PM on Jul. 12, 2009
Answer by Clairwil at 12:36 PM on Jul. 13, 2009