I hate it when my boyfriend drinks. I actually went so far as to ask him to stop drinking. He did. That's actually when I knew without any doubts at all that he does love me, b/c he stopped drinking and he hasn't had a drink since. He tells me how much he wants to drink, but he won't do it. He started going to AA, even though he doesn't really think he has a problem.
To the anon wanting to know what you can do, honestly, if he doesn't think he has a problem or isn't willing to change, then there may not be much you can do, other than decide to deal with it or leave. When I talked to my boyfriend, I told him that he scares me when he drinks like that, and that it really upsets me and I'm not sure I can have that in my life. I told him if he really loves me and wants to be with me, he has to stop drinking. You could try something along those lines with your husband and see what he says.
at 8:26 AM on Jul. 13, 2009