I would recommend a very old one. The title is "Co-dependent No More". Don't remember the author - but it can help you recognize why you migrated to a person that would treat you like that. I would also recommend some counseling. One thing that helped me was one true fact about people in general "Everyone is different". Once I learned what made me keep choosing men like that and learned how to consciously break my own vicious cycle - EVERYTHING changed! I was able to have a relationship and not punish that poor man because of what the last of of the first 3 had done. I was able to identify and obtain the kind of relationship that makes me feel happy and healthy . Time, education and practice. You'll be just fine. Good luck.
at 1:25 PM on Jul. 13, 2009