My DH and I are still on our first real real relationship. While we were still dating, he made a few mistakes, and a few times we almost broke up over them. He's never physically cheated on me, although he has broken my trust quite a few times. Including knowing a girl for three months and never telling me about her, and then towards the end of the three months going places with her, and lying to me telling me he was going with someone else. That particular instance hurts the most because that's the only time he's broken my trust while we've been married.
I'm just wondering if anyone else is unable to get over trust issues in relationships. It's been over a year since he broke my trust that one time... and it was his first time since we were married to break my trust, and I just can't seem to forgive him still... anyone have any advice for how to do this?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:42 PM on Jul. 13, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 2:50 PM on Jul. 13, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 2:59 PM on Jul. 13, 2009
The thing about a relationship is that trust is the one of the most important keys to keep it together. If you do not trust him, then your relationship is always going to be rocky and always going to be on the brink of destruction. You need to get away and be by yourself, if only for a few hours, to answer this question honestly. If you really want to continue on in the relationship, then you need to tell yourself that he is not going to do this again. He said it is the last time and he means it. If you can't believe it, then you need to go. He was hiding her for one reason or another and if you feel that you can not trust him again, than there is no point in saving the relationship. I am so sorry you have to go through this.
Answer by krissyvelazquez at 3:50 PM on Jul. 13, 2009
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Answer by Devin0414 at 6:42 PM on Jul. 13, 2009
I married a man who lied during our dating. I didn't find out until we were married. I let it go. Then things happened in our marriage, he lied and I told him it was it. That was almost 10 years ago, and we worked it out. It's almost 18 years for us. I do trust him, but there is always a part of me that is waiting for the other shoe to drop, logically my head knows that's in the past, but my heart isn't so sure...
Answer by Anonymous at 10:41 PM on Jul. 13, 2009