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Video games as an escape? PIOC

So my son gets limited social interaction at his dad's house. It is something that I have tried repeatedly talking to him about, he just doesn't really seem to get it. However, my son gets to play all the video games he wants while there. I generally limit them here and he hardly ever asks to play anyway. But its his house, his rules. My son didn't say these words exactly, but pretty much says that he uses his video games as interaction with anything. He plays a lot of games where the characters talk and you have multiple answers to choose from so you can kind of change the conversation. My husband did this when he was young too, because he felt his parents were too busy to talk to him. My husband says it was his escape. Has anyone had experience with this or anything like this. What can I do to help things here?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:24 PM on Jul. 13, 2009 in Kids' Health

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  • Makes sense. I don't know how to fix it, but yeah, our family sorta was that way too. The parents didn't do anything with us kids and didn't want to "hang out" with us...so we found other things. For me, it was the internet...I would be 17 an online until 4AM and then get up to go to school...that's when all my grades started falling and stuff. My brother and cousin both had vid games, my cousin never turned the thing off...spent most of his childhood and teen years plugged into a video game. Is your husband doing the same thing his parents did to him...not talking to his kid when he's at his house? If that's the case, then that's why your child is playing so much video games....cause he's lonely. If you can't do anything dreastic about it, at least be his friend and mom at home...pay attention to him and do things with him. I'm sure it won't damage him too much if he's only playing @ dad's house.
    Elizabeth1015

    Answer by Elizabeth1015 at 3:31 PM on Jul. 13, 2009

  • OP

    Not my husband, but my ex husband does I am sure.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:34 PM on Jul. 13, 2009

  • OP again

    My husband isn't like this. His parents were somewhat inattentive while he was growing up and you can tell they are still somewhat detached. He hangs out with my son alot, and kind of does the Dad things, catch, camping, scouts, fishing, all that stuff, you know.

    My ex husband had only his father and grandfather. Now grandfather was very strict, but father was one of those, lax parents. His dad always seemed more concerned with himself than he did his child. So grandfather raised him for the most part. He is the one that is essentially isolating my son.

    Hopefully that makes sense.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:47 PM on Jul. 13, 2009

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