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Wills? Power of Attorney? Funeral Arrangments?

Why do we have to make all this now? He's not being deployed for another 6 months, why do we need it at all?

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Asked by Anonymous at 2:45 PM on Jul. 14, 2009 in Politics & Current Events

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  • I'm sorry sweetie.

    Answer by LaceyAM at 2:48 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • Yeah I know it sucks but better safe then sorry

    Answer by BlueCollarMama at 2:49 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • You should especially if you have kids. You really will regret it if something terrible were to happen and you or your DH die without a will. If your dh were to die you may have trouble getting insurance or monies due you. It's a good thing not a bad thing. Just do it.

    Answer by itsmesteph11 at 2:52 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • Everyone should have a will/power of attorney and their "wishes" formally documented once they marry and especially have they have children, regardless of what your occupation is.

    Anything can happen to anyone at anytime, instead of dealing with these types of things and making arrangements when you are grief-stricken, it is best to agree on these things now, document everything and just file them away--hopefully for a VERY long time!  You can change your wills as often as you'd like, but it's a good idea to at least establish the basics.


    Answer by LoriKeet at 2:53 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • Something could happen to one or both of you even before deployment and a will and a power of attorney safeguard what ever is valuable personally in things to you and financially too. Doing this does not bring death. Death happens when it does. Wills, Power of Attorney take care of those who survive. Make sure you / he are joint in tenancy with right to survivorship on every bank account and mortgage too if you or he has one. Make sure you if his wife at the very least is his primary beneficiary on life insurance policies. With kids cause you're either pregnant or have one or more it's important for finances to be in order in case of death. Again doing this doesn't bring death. It happens. Doing this protects and gives money to survivors. My husband was active duty years ago and I remember when he went tdy to Japan. That morning he showed me where his will was, his commanding officer made all tell their wives.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:59 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • If your not married, ask why if you have a baby together and he claims to love you and want you forever in his life aren't you married. Being married give you more legal rights than not.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:01 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • Wills are to be sure his life insurance and assets are given to who he wants them given to. Power of attorney is so you can endorse his name on checks, tag his vehicle things like that; the POA will be voided should he die. Funeral arrangementa are to make sure that his wishes are taken into account should he die. Its a lot to deal with but, this is what pre deployment is all about. My hubby left in May but all of these things were done in October of last year. Good luck. Make sure YOU get a copy of the Will and POA and make sure YOU agree with it. My hubby made it easy everything comes to me.

    Answer by matthewscandi at 3:05 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • Everyone being deployed has to do this. Our son wasn't married (and no particular SO or kids) so he had to do them with us, giving us as his parent's POA and all. It's hard but it has to be done.

    Answer by pagan_mama at 3:09 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • It takes a while to put it together - six months is reasonable.

    And why do you need it at all? Every adult should have these things. It just makes it easier on your loved ones if there are any problems.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 4:02 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

  • Trust me you don't want to be doing this just weeks or days before he leaves. Get it taken care of now then you can enjoy the time left before he deploys without worrying if his predeploment leave is spent in a JAG office getting it all done.

    Answer by Soniam301 at 4:04 PM on Jul. 14, 2009

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