Redirection. She is frustrated and has no other way to express herself. Redirect her, get her interested in something else. She CAN understand what you say, just can't say the words to express it. So, sympathize with her "I know you're upset honey. It's hard when you can't have something. Hey do you want to look at this book".
No, it's not too young if you aren't teaching her how to be angry and not redirecting her to other things. Before she gets too out of hand, when you first see she's mad, use it as a teaching moment, "You're mad, can you show mommy your MAD face, see this is mommy's mad face (make a very melodramatic mad face) what is YOUR mad face". "Can you say, MAD?"
Learning to express yourself well has to be taught, it is not a natural thing.
at 9:48 AM on Jul. 15, 2009