Long story short:
My fiance and I cannot get married because his ex wife (who left him months before I met him) has managed to avoid divorce proceedings for two years. He asked me to marry him last year, and two months later (only four days before he deployed for the second time) we discovered I was pregnant.
His battle buddies, 1st Sgt, and all the rest of his company know the situation. Neither they nor their spouses have ever directly said anything rude to me. However, I cannot help but feel out of place. He calls me his spouse, but in the Army's eyes we will never be a "real" family until we have a marriage certificate between us. I also cannot help but feel that the "real" wives in his company and battalion look down on me or something. I am always afraid of being thought of as one of those horrid women who get pregnant by soldiers on purpose! It does not help that I am a big hippie so I REALLY don't fit in.
Answer by Soniam301 at 3:02 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 3:09 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by EternalChild86 at 3:17 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by Soniam301 at 3:27 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by lvpenguino at 3:30 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by EternalChild86 at 3:48 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:48 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 3:49 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Answer by EternalChild86 at 4:33 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
Hmmm....this sounds like a situation where you would have the marriage annulled. I don't want to be mean here, but if it was important to him to marry you I think he would have already taken care of this. If he truly does want to resolve this I agree with the PP - hire a local lawyer!
Answer by blueberry1 at 9:39 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
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