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Is he pushing me out?

When we get into fights he has told me to leave and lately when he says something awful to me i tell him i want to leave and either way he always says i love you and we need to work this out but then the next day or later on that day its back to he sick of everything.

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on Jul. 15, 2009 in Relationships

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  • it sounds like you two need time apart to figure things out

    Answer by admckenzie at 3:07 PM on Jul. 15, 2009

  • It sounds like you need a seperation. Both of you need to stop threatening...Either he needs to kick you out, like he says, or you need to leave, like you say.

    Next time, do it. The next time he says you need to leave, then grab your shit and leave. Stay with a friend, family, hotel room, whatever, even if it is just for a night, and don't talk to him for the rest of that night. See what happens.

    Answer by CarolynBarnett at 3:09 PM on Jul. 15, 2009

  • Why would you want to be with someone who says awful things to you? Or wants tells you he wants you to leave? Those are not signs of a healthy loving relationship.

    And from what you wrote this is a cycle that happens again and again . . . you guys fight, he says awful things, then makes up with you . . . then it starts all over again. You need to do something to change what is going on between you because my best guess is he won't.

    Answer by TessLouise at 3:14 PM on Jul. 15, 2009

  • Never make threats that you don't carry out. This makes you stop and think before making threats. Threats that aren't carried out weaken future threats, they become empty.

    It sounds as though this road has come to an end. You aren't happy, he isn't happy. It sounds like more of a habit, an accustomed to you thing. If you don't want to live your life like this call it quits now. At the very minimum a separation, and don't fall for that feeling of missing him that you are bound to get the first week or so. It is just missing what you are used to. Actually give it a good long time, and then figure out if it really is worth it to be so unhappy.

    Answer by Bmat at 3:14 PM on Jul. 15, 2009

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