My MIL has almost an uncanny ability to piss me off. I mean... it's gotten worse and worse over the years, to the point where, I feel like I'm about to vomit blood, I'm hyperventilating, and I can't think straight. She means well.. sometimes. We just don't mesh most of the time. We're polar opposites, practically.
My mother and my best friend constantly tells me I should just take it with a grain of salt, ignore her if I can, and move on. Be gracious.
This is very sound advice, problem is, I can do it.. but sometimes, what she says sticks in my craw. I can't get over it. I try to, making sure I'm not being petty, but I remember the incident for DAYS... and I end up getting so ticked off, I delete her from everything. IM, myspace, etc. Childish, I know.
But I can't confront her. She manipulates, she turns her words back onto me, she cries, she stomps around, she slams doors... I can't stand that...
Asked by Anonymous at 8:50 PM on Jul. 15, 2009 in About CafeMom
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Answer by okc-mom-2 at 8:55 PM on Jul. 15, 2009
It's a control battle and you seem to be playing it right along with her. Respect is earned not given. Write her a letter and leave out of the unnecessary crap and tell her that you won't be disrespected by her any longer. If she refuses to be respectful of you then she will not remain a part of your lives. It's really that simple. When her son married you, he cut the cord with her. If she can't remain civil and be respectful then she needs to buzz off. Just because she's the grandmother doesn't give her a free ride to be verbally abusive. In the long run, your child(ren) will see how you let her treat you and they will treat you the same way.
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