I have been with my current boyfriend for almost 3 years now. We have a son together, and we have built our life together, but yet have no plans of getting married in the near or distant future. But I want something serious. Since he doesn't seem to want to give me that extent of seriousness, I have been really distancing myself from him. I have an exboyfriend, the one I was with before this man, and he is recently broken up with his woman of 2 years. He has turned to me for comfort, and I to him in the nights that I am fighting with my man and have my own issues going on. We have done nothing physically, not even hung out or anything, but yet I feel the old spark and same love we had before. Do you think its real love again? Or just something that I'm feeling because I am in a rough spot with my own significant other? I really feel like I'm in love with my ex again, yet I don't want to destroy my family over it. Ugh!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:09 AM on Jul. 16, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Anonymous at 1:23 AM on Jul. 16, 2009
You can't love two men at once. You love the idea of your child's father and love how the other one makes you feel right now. If you and the ex were really in love you never would have let rumors tear you apart. If you loved your boyfriend you would not emotionally have an affair. If he loved you he would marry you. You have a child and need to put that child first. I can't tell you want to do because I have not been in your shoes. Many of my friends have been and all who have stayed with someone they did not love have been miserable all who have cheated were miserable. The one smart friend who went out on her own and figured out who she was and what she wanted is happy and a few years later found a man she loves and loves her. They have been married nearly 10 years now. Good luck to you.
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