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16 month old temper tantrums

My 16 month old daughter throws a temper tantrum whenever the smallest thing doesnt go her way. I feel like she spends 95 percent of the day with us screaming, and throwing herself on the floor. How can we help her learn to control her emotions?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 5:46 AM on Jul. 16, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • OMG - she's 16 months old - please don't ignore her emotions. If you want your child to grow up feeling respected and able to handle her emotions (i.e. emotionally intelligent), then acknowledge her frustrations - whatever's causing it - she wants something she can't have? Let her know you UNDERSTAND her - don't ignore her. She needs to feel like she's being heard, or else she will think that she doesn't matter. This does not mean give her whatever she wants, this means to reflect back to her that you understand her emotion, her frustration, her anger, her sadness. Let her know that she is not alone, then teach her how to express herself - at this age, start giving her the words to express herself. "Angie's MAD...MAD MAD MAD! Mommy said No to the candy and Angie is MAD! Mommy knows Angie is MAD, but Mommy said No." Once she feels understood, then try to re-direct her to a positive - something she can have or do.
    JPsMommy605

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 9:46 AM on Jul. 16, 2009

  • When she does that, do not pay attention to her..Turn around a walk away..And whatever she want do not give it to her when she does that.

    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 6:22 AM on Jul. 16, 2009

  • If she hits you while holding you, put her down and step away - No Hit, Angie...we don't hit people. Angie's Mad, but no hit! If she tries again, walk further away - this teaches that hitting makes the people we love GO AWAY - not what they want. If she hits someone else, give your attention to the victim first, make sure they get your full attention, and only THEN do you turn your attention to your daughter, telling her we do not hit, again understanding WHY she hit (did she want a toy, etc...), and if she does it again, remove her immediately from the setting. Also, it's good to offer up things that she can hit, like pillows, when she's angry. Re-direct her outbursts to things she can hit or kick. But always try to understand what's causing the frustration and acknowledge to her that you understand. Then find a positive for every negative you give her - don't let her hear No all day...let her hear Yes, too.
    JPsMommy605

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 9:50 AM on Jul. 16, 2009

  • ***obviously, I just threw the name "Angie" out there as an example...***
    JPsMommy605

    Answer by JPsMommy605 at 9:50 AM on Jul. 16, 2009