My stepson is 8 and is the meanest kid I've ever met. He's rude to everyone in the family. He punched me in the stomach the other day then asked if I was pregnant. I said no, why? And he said because he wanted to kill the baby (which freaks me the hell out) He doesn't want anything to do with my husband unless he's spending money on him. He uses my parents and my husbands parents. Then after getting what he wants, tells them he hates them and wants to go home. He won't do what we say and spanking or taking things away don't help. His mom wants him to come live with us, but I know I couldn't deal with it. I literally hate him and he scares me. He's so violent and has threatened to kill and no one but me and my parents see that he's unlike other kids. I love my husband and don't want a divorce, but I just can't deal with his child.. Am I being immature? I just feel terrible about myself right nowAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:46 AM on Jul. 16, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by scooterpooter at 11:49 AM on Jul. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:54 AM on Jul. 16, 2009
You both need counselling .....you want him to be all lovey etc etc yet your attitude stinks ( I hate him ) you should be saying I love my stepson and need to find a way to help him ...Poor kid he has problems and needs help and love
Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 AM on Jul. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 AM on Jul. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:59 AM on Jul. 16, 2009
Tell dad & mom & dad that the only way he can live w/ you, is if he gets SERIOUS counseling & therapy. That would be the only way! Make an ultimatum!
Answer by samurai_chica at 12:01 PM on Jul. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:01 PM on Jul. 16, 2009
Answer by Mel30248 at 12:03 PM on Jul. 16, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:05 PM on Jul. 16, 2009
I agree its not normal behavior, and what is it going to take for your DH to see that something is wrong? That's what I would ask him, what is his boundary for "something wrong"? What are his teachers saying? I agree you should try to support him, but if it were me, I would sit down with your DH and explain that you have no problem with him coming to stay as long as we all go to counseling. I need tools to help me cope with the situation and build a better relationship with him and that's the only way you would be comfortable in this situation. (that way it seems like you are the one who needs the help, but after a few visits, maybe they can help you SS.)
You deserve to have a calm place to live too! So if DH still says no, then I would move out. Because while he does have a commitment to his child, he also has responsibilities to you.
Answer by Lesli at 12:07 PM on Jul. 16, 2009