My dh, obviously not my ds's father, acts like he just does not like him. They used to have a great relationship and he was an awesome father figure to him. Now it seems all he does is look for things that ds does wrong so that he can yell at him or complain about it to me. He says that I dont discipline him enough. I think alot of the things that he does are common kid things and dh blows them out of proportion. IE. forgetting to take out the trash, leaving his bike across the street, going in/out the door alot. I am not saying that I say nothing when these things happen it is just not a major offense in my book. DH and I have a great relationship and a daughter in common. I do not believe in just up and leaving, I want to know how can I work this out between them. My son feels like dh hates him and he is not part of the family, especially w a different last name than the rest of us. Please no rude comments. My son is 9.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:43 PM on Jul. 19, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)
Answer by KalebsMommee at 2:50 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 5:23 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Orginial OP HERE!!
My questions was WHAT do I say to him? How would would try to get your point across?
jfblaine..I really like your answer. That is what I am looking for, a way to talk to him without letting my emotions get the best of me. I would NEVER give up my son for any man! That is exactly what his paternal grandmother did, and his father grew up to be nothing but a worthless druggie. I also want to clarify that DH is never physically or verbally abusive to my son. Just very hard on him. DS is ADHD and according to the testing has little to no short term memory, so something you tell your kids 100 x's, I have to tell him 500. I just need a way to get this across to DH without fighting about it, because of course I get very very defensive on this subject.
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