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Am i wrong for feeling like i should leave my bf?

Me and my boyfriend are first time new parents our son is 2months old and i go to school or well will be continueing school in august and hehaas no job because when we moved he had to quite it. So now we leave with his cousin and well him his cousin and his cousin wife go everywhere and do all this stuff togather and the WHOLE time i am hear at the house by myself with my son i dont mind it but i am jst SO tired of stay in this house and when they get home it feels like he wants NOTHING to do with his son and then he wonders why i get mad at him.

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:05 PM on Jul. 19, 2009 in Relationships

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  • They should be more considerate of you, but the baby depends a lot on you right now. Sometimes men don't really understand about babies, or don't bond with them, until the baby actually can look him in the eye and smile, or until the child is old enough to interact with their father.

    Answer by Bmat at 5:12 PM on Jul. 19, 2009

  • If i were you, i would probably feel the same way. Have you tried to talk to him about your feelings? If not then maybe you should in a way that doesn't make him feel like he's being attacked. He should stay home with you more, but i also agree with *bmat* on the fact that some men don't get too involved until the baby becomes more interactive. Maybe you can all plan something you can to with the baby , out of the house. Just try to tell him that its upsetting you and you want more time as a family. Good Luck hun.


    Answer by Iluvmygirlies42 at 5:16 PM on Jul. 19, 2009

  • Before the two of you decided to have this child, didn't you discuss how you would handle child care? Have you explained to him how you feel? It sound like is not committed to either you or the child.

    You could try leaving the house when he gets home

    Answer by rkoloms at 5:32 PM on Jul. 19, 2009

  • ok, why are you two even together? Neither one works. You are not married so there is no commitment. You can't afford your own place but decided to have a child. Go home and figure it all out. Let him figure his life out. You don't sound like you have anything with him that is redeemable anyway so let the bum go.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:17 PM on Jul. 19, 2009

  • get used to it.. i have been out all of 3 times without my daughter since she was born 6 months ago. her dad goes out every weekend, and if i go anywhere i take her.. try getting them to go places you can take your baby.. or walk to a park or somewhere with him just for you.

    Answer by sunshinebaby209 at 6:27 PM on Jul. 19, 2009

  • girl, he should love his son and you in the part takes of it. You should tell him that if he doesnt pay attention or love your son or you like you want to be treated then you will leave and no doubt about it and no questions asked

    Answer by parisonmom at 7:00 PM on Jul. 19, 2009

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