As an example- those of us with Asperger's, or even those with low level IQs... or those with cerebral palsy, etc...
... asking partly cuz of the responses on another autism?? the other day, and also due to the situation of the poor mom in NJ whose child was removed from her care- due at least partly to her refusal of an emergency c-section. Who gets to make these decisions and why?? I did not *know* about my Asperger's when I had kids, so I do not know if it would have altered my decision making in any way- but I do not believe it would have. I struggle from time to time- but who doesn't. A NT mom will still have struggles with her kids- they are just different issues than the ones I deal with. Should someone get to say who *gets* to have and/or keep their children??? Why if so... who if so... would YOU want to have that job??... should anyone?? Maybe EVERYONE should have to *APPLY* to have kids- w/o a certificate of pass-no!
Answer by roachiesmom at 8:47 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Answer by mtnmama111 at 6:50 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Answer by teamquinn at 6:52 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Answer by preggoandfat at 6:59 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
OP, you must know that Asperger's is different than most other "disabilities". An individual with Asperger's can learn abstract concepts. Someone with an IQ of 50 can not. In reality, someone does get to say who *gets* to have and/or keep their children... but only after said person comes to attention of protective services and repeatedly fails to demonstrate a willingness or ability to learn how to properly care for their children.
As for the NJ mom, there are so many more details in that case that we don't know. I am a social worker that works with moms that have young children up to age 3. Every case is full of intricacies and years of assessments by scores of individuals. Removing children is the last resort. Believe me, spend a year as a social worker and you'll stay awake at night thinking about the kids that weren't removed.
Answer by ba13ygrl1987 at 7:27 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Answer by ba13ygrl1987 at 7:28 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Answer by roachiesmom at 7:34 PM on Jul. 19, 2009
Answer by roachiesmom at 7:36 PM on Jul. 19, 2009