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Do you think all your kids should have the same rules, no matter sex, age and maturity?

Or do you think they should very What rules should they have? Also do you think children with less rules are better behaved then those with more?


Asked by hot-mama86 at 1:08 AM on Jul. 20, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • I didn't mean that it's not a serious question, I meant that it'd be silly to do so (IMO).

    Children's curfews, bedtimes, responsibilities and privileges should reflect their age and maturity. A six year old needs more sleep than a 16 year old. I intend to let my 17 year old drive, but not my 8 year old. I don't expect my three year old to vacuum the house, but I would give that chore to a 12 year old. All my rules will be based on the individual child.

    Answer by toriandgrace at 1:30 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • No I think they should have different rules that go with gender when they are teens. I have a twin brother and he was allowed to stay out later and walk to Sonic (less than a mile away) and I wasn't! But now I see why. It was for my protection because a girl walking alone, or a guy, who would you mess with? as for other rules they should be the same. Just for the safety of girls, things need to be taken into consideration.


    Answer by Alysia_Moore at 1:14 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • Of course they should vary. If you have a ten year old and a 16 year old, should they have the same curfew? That's just silly.

    Answer by toriandgrace at 1:17 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • * toriandgrace
    This is a serious ? I have met people who raise their kids all different ways. One couple raised their kida all with the same at different ages. All their curfews were ten with certain approved exeptions so it does happen.

    Answer by hot-mama86 at 1:20 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

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    * toriandgrace
    Oh ok sorry I get so many I can't believe you asked that what the hell is wrong with you on hereI guess I jumped the gun a little. How ever just an fyi resent studies have shown a teen needs more sleep than a child do to hormonally changes. That is also why a lott of times you will notice they do worse in their first few classes. just a curious fact..

    Answer by hot-mama86 at 1:37 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • I think there has to be a difference for age and maturity. My oldest was more mature at 11 than my twins are at 11. So she had more freedom.

    Answer by teamquinn at 1:40 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • I'd base it on maturity above all else then maybe age. Not gender.

    Answer by jus1jess at 2:24 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • I think some should be the same. I know it's petty, but I remember when my sis and I were growing up we had to go to bed at 9pm no exceptions, even when we got into highschool. But my brother, who is 4 yrs younger than me, didnt have a bed time, and neither does my other bro who is 7 yrs younger. Sounds silly but I always hated that, and felt like because they were boys they got special attention. So some rules, like bedtimes, shold be the same. But I do agree with alysia moore when she said her bro could walk alone at night but she couldnt. I would prefer neither of my kids walking alone at night, but I would prob let my son walk alone before my daughter.

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 3:09 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • oh ya and my sis and I couldnt date til we were 15, but my bro had his first gf at 12!

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 3:09 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • not different based on gender, but on age and maturity, yes.

    Answer by autodidact at 3:45 AM on Jul. 20, 2009

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