I went through this EXACT situation with my sons father. My son is now 6 and only seen his father ONCE! Do not make him want to be a part of his sons life. If only he is a MAN he willbe there for his child. Just do what is right for YOU and your BABY, and that is continue to raise your child! You dont have to have the man in order to raise your child the right way.
I have seen this happen too many times...it's sad, but in all honesty, it really doesn't hurt the child, what may hurt the child is if the father is in and out of their life. Don't try to force the father, he'll just resent the child.
my dh has stepped up to be the father figuer for the baby we take care of everyother weekend b/c his dad is a dead beat. hes 5 months old and his dad seen him when he was a newborn and held him like 6 inches in the air away from his body like a asshole that he is. sorry to hear u have problems with ur babys father i wish my dd dad would stay out of her life he only a "dad" when its convient for him.