I use time outs in combination with taking a favorite toy away for serious offenses. Really important is getting down on their level, looking in their eyes and telling them why they're getting punished, both before and after the punishment. If these things don't work, try putting her in her room for a few minutes with the door shut. And explain really clearly before and after why you're doing it.
I don't do this every day myself, but it works: At the beginning of the day and in the afternoon, review the rules of the house with your kids and tell them what will happen if they don't follow them. Especially the younger ones, I think they sometimes just forget about the consequences.
at 4:18 PM on Jul. 20, 2009