I just found out that my son has a disabling, progressive bone disease. My marriage is already horrible, mainly because my husband is very self-centered.
I love my son dearly and I could care less about my husband and him wanting my undivided attention all the time. But, I am curious about how disabilities ruin marriages because I hear it all the time.
Answer by feesharose at 5:12 PM on Jul. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 5:19 PM on Jul. 20, 2009
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 5:28 PM on Jul. 20, 2009
It does often. In fact marriages end sooner with families who have a child with different needs. The first step you already know: know the facts. So you know that marriages can end (not as a result of the child's disability but because of the different ways the parents respond to it) and you can start to be proactive. You asked why: jealousy. A partner might not like the fact that this child is being "babied" all the time. Lame I know. It is not babying it is providing care and support. A spouse may not have ever wanted to parent a child living with a disability and knows they can walk away because there is the other person who will do it all. Sad but true. It is not "fun" taking care of a child with different needs and it can be scary. We all want to escape and sometimes some people do. Financially it is a huge issue. Always trying to find ways to cover the cost.
Answer by frogdawg at 7:46 PM on Jul. 20, 2009
Answer by frogdawg at 7:49 PM on Jul. 20, 2009