It a long story how my four year old got this way but I am at my wits end and need help! She hates her hair because it is not long and blonde. She thinks she is not pretty because her skin is "too peach color" and that she wants a mom who is not brown.
She got this way because she was staying off and on with my husband at his mother's house while and me at my parents (we were staying at his mom's house to help take care of it while she stayed up north at their farm but she decided to come down and"help" us). Most of the time she was at my MIL her cousins were also there...that is where most of the problems with her attitude begin. My husband and I had to separate while she was at the house because I am very allergic to her animals. We are now all in our own spot but the damage seems to be done.
sorry, I was just confused, I got called a racist once because I said "brown people" the black community didn't seem to respond well to that- I guess what ever is politically correct now a days- I don't keep up with it all. Is his family against there white son marrying a Brown person?I would assume her feeling got hurt because she loves you so much, and wants to be like mommy, and heard grandparents say bad things about you so now she feels lost- torn between to cultures.Just let her no its great to have two strong and community leading cultures running though her veins I assume she hates her hair, because its dark in color and not "white" people hair, and I assume she wants either lighter or darker skin and not a in between. I would say its time to talk with MIL- because SOMETHING was said.
Answer by JnCV at 5:29 PM on Jul. 20, 2009
I am still confused to how a 4 year old is familiar with outer beauty?
was DH or family saying things to her?
And by "brown" are you saying she is white, and you are black or mexican or something?
more details plz
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