In the bookstore whenever I look for books to help deal with guilt, they all seem to focus on guilt that I would call "misplaced". For example, a mother has super-high standards for herself that of course she fails at, and then feels guilty. Or some overzealous Catholic mother taught someone that she is evil to masturbate, and so someone labors in guilt whenever she "caves in" and does it. I don't have these types of guilts that one inherits improperly.
But what about when guilt really is deserved? Like if my husband divorced me and a friend rejected me because of actions that I took myself, as an adult? I am painfully aware that my selfishness, crass horniness, and disregard for important relationships caused me to take actions that hurt my ex, our two kids, and my former close friend (yes I was with her husband). How do I deal with this? I've been miserable for over a year now.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:38 PM on Jul. 20, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Anonymous at 6:57 PM on Jul. 20, 2009
Forgive yourself and realize that they will have reasons now to be mad and hurt. Even though you now you were wrong you still have to move on. Just stay positive and never expect the other person to forgive you because that is their decision and it should be respected. You can go back and change the past either so live for today and tomorrow and let go of the troubles of the past.
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