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child support. (kinda long) i dont need the extra stress from bashing right now.

ok so my DD is 5 months old. total, her father has seen her 4 times since she was born. he has a GF and i have a BF which we talked out and thats fine for both of us. i told him at first that i wasnt going to put him on child support becasue i didnt want to put him in the system. i dont need anything from him in terms of money and i told him that. i told him that i just wanted him to be a part of our daughter's life and if he could just come around once a week to see her, that would be fine. that lasted all of about 2 weeks. and now when i look back on it, it just seems like he only came around to talk about his GF to me when he was mad at her. now its been almost a month and i havent heard from him. he doesnt work or go to school so i dont understand why he cant take time from his "busy" schedule to see his daughter once a week. should i put him on child support?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:12 PM on Jul. 20, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • How old is the father?

    Answer by QuintinsMom520 at 9:14 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • The child support is your daughter's money, not yours. You may not need it to support her, but it is owed to her from her dad. I would get child support and put it in a savings account for her college.
    Maybe when he is more mature he will want to be a part of her life.

    Answer by timelessglass at 9:15 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • her father is going to be 20 next month

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:17 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • Don't even try to be nice he needs to help support ya'lls daughter no matter what.

    You should have not told him anything about the c/s until you got some more advice and I bet alot of ladies here is going to say you should file for c/s. You will need it eventually if not to buy her stuff atleast save it for her so when she is grown up you don't have to worry about a down payment on whatever she may need. Do it soon!!!

    Answer by Butterfly1108 at 9:18 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • he should have been put on it in the first place that money is for your daughter

    i agree with timelessglass

    Answer by rose549 at 9:19 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • i havent told him anything about it. i just started concidering it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:20 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • I agree you should try to get it and save for her college fund or for a car for graduation. Something she can use when she's older.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:24 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • You can't make the man be involved in his child's life. But you can (and should) file for child support. You and your child are entitled to it. You may not NEED it right now, but someday you may. It's his child too and he should be responsible in some way. You are carrying 100% of the burden and I'm quite certain you didn't make that baby all by yourself.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:29 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • You should have filed for child support right away. Do it now. Also, the child support is for the SUPPORT of the child. It is to be used to pay for rent/mortgage, utilities, food, clothes, insurance, out of pocket medical, car payment/transportation, school fees,school supplies, etc. It is also for extra's like sports, dance, swimming lessons. ALL parents should be held responsible for the financial support of their children, no matter what. If you really don't need the money, then put it in a savings account for your child to use for college or in the unfortunate situation that you lose your job and need the funds to support your child.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:31 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

  • I agree with timelessglass here. It isn't really your say to not burden him or whatnot with the system and support. It is the money she has a right to have, and so it's up to you to protect her by requesting that money.

    Answer by sweetphoenix529 at 9:47 PM on Jul. 20, 2009

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