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need advise on how to take care of my son's condition

Well, my son about a year ago with temperal lobe seizers witch in other words is a form of epopepsie.Sorry about the spelling. Well i have do some reserch on it so i kinda know a little bit about it. But what i need is some help on how i'd handle him when he has one of his wanting something tantrums for he will cry untill he gets what he wants. He will even through things if he don't get his way. PLus i need some advice on ways that i can punish him other then smacking him on the butt or sitting him on a couch for he'll get right back up. And since i have 3 other kids beside him it's hard to let him have what ever he wants and then them not get anything so i try and get them all something but then when he wants something else i can't get it and he'll start saying mommy mommy mommy over and over again even after i have said something to him. Any advise or information yu can give will be very helpfull and thank you in advance

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Asked by mom_in_need75 at 9:52 PM on Jul. 21, 2009 in Kids' Health

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  • put him in his room and let him stay there until the tantrum is over, the more you give in the more he knows he can get what he wants by acting out
    good luck

    Answer by mommymeg03 at 9:57 PM on Jul. 21, 2009

  • Is you son hyper active? I know a lot of parents would not agree, but I would have him checked for ADHD. His pediatrician should be able to help you.

    As for the spanking (etc.), I am not one of those moms who are 100% against it. However, I do believe that if you do it too often it really isn't effective. You should try punishing him by taking away privileges, or on the flip side of that, make him earn the things he is asking for by demonstrating good behavior.


    Answer by Anonymous at 10:00 PM on Jul. 21, 2009

  • Is the Epilepsy under control? If not completely under control, temporal lobe szs can & do cause major behavioral issues for those that have them. Individuals can have hallucinations or experience sudden, very intense emotions, become suddenly aggressive or violent. They also often lack impulse control &/or havecompromised executive functioning, which can look like ADHD.

    If you don't believe his current behavior is sz activity, b/c it is fairly typical for many children, then you need to get tough with him. Catch him being good & immediatly reward, catch him being bad & immediately discipline. Be consistent & he'll get the message. Above all, be specific about your expectations & consequences for not meeting them. Pick up a copy of "1-2-3 Magic" & give it a try, 'cause it really does work. Consider consulting w/a behavior specialist or other counselor if you feel things have gotten too out of your control. Good luck!

    Answer by mom2aspclboy at 10:18 AM on Jul. 22, 2009

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